Girls Like Me

I’m not like those other girls. 

I don’t like make-up or heels.

I don’t eat a salad to lose weight.

I eat cheeseburgers. I eat french fries. I like to eat sweets. Because….

I’m not like those other girls.

Those girls who cheer.

Those girls who have to be the most popular or perfect.

Those girls who are catty and mean.

The one’s who  contour or waist train. I’m not like that…

I’m not like those other girls.

Who don’t like sports.

Who don’t like comics.

Who don’t like video games. I can’t hide who I am, you guys…

I’m not like other girls.

I only make friends with guys because there is less drama.

I HATE drama.

I HATE when other girls judge me.

I would HATE to be like those other girls.

But what if… those other girls are actually just like me. 

Those other girls like the things I do, but don’t say so.

Those other girls feel judged by the make-up they wear or the games they play.

They only have friends who are boys because they don’t feel like they can be friends with girls…

Because they aren’t like other girls.

Other girls… like me.

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We aren’t that different after all. We are all trying to be special and unique, when all we really want is to be with each other. The more special we try to be, the more lonely we become. There are other girls like you, and like me. Let’s join forces and make a community, instead of convincing ourselves that other people aren’t like us.

Much love. Much grace.

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What Would A Rational Person Do?

Let’s be real. The past few months have been a struggle for me. I have had some anxiety issues that I have been dealing with. Often I have found myself asking the question: “What would a rational person do?” during times of irrational amounts of stress and anxiety.

Naturally, the book How To Live In Fear caught my attention because of these moments in my life. I started this book not just to look into anxiety for myself, but also to see how I can help others cope with everyday struggles or panic attacks. I always felt so helpless not knowing how to help someone dealing with anxiety, and this book really addresses how to be more aware of anxiety symptoms and triggers.

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The first thing that struck my attention about this book  was that the author himself lives with anxiety. He is a pastor, father, and husband… and has dealt with anxiety his entire life. Most books I have read have been from people who have studied anxiety, or are popular “Self-Help” speakers, but have never personally dealt with such panic. Just having the author be an advocate and personally experience anxiety made this book all the more interesting to me.

Overall, this book is great for those dealing with mild to severe anxiety or people who know someone who is dealing with these issues. While I learned many new techniques, was encouraged, and gained a new understanding when dealing with anxiety, I did feel that the book was a bit long in page length.

I loved the personal stories and practical knowledge given by the author and other outside sources. He shared stories from his childhood, early-adulthood, and even his recent life that really allow the reader to understand anxiety triggers and his fears in general.

I would recommend this book to those interested in gaining a personal insight about anxiety but do wish there was more psychological and Biblical evidence throughout the book.

 

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Have you read this book by Lance Hahn? What did you think?

Much love. Much grace.

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A Beautiful Song

This song came on the radio this past week and I was reminded of many things.

I was reminded how the first time I ever heard this song was when I was 17 years old as a senior in high school. It was a hard year full of growth and pain, but this song was one of the things that encouraged me deeply. That first time I really listened to the lyrics it couldn’t have come at a more perfect time… I felt so alone and so unwanted. The lyrics of this song made me weep as I began to let them encourage me and realize what they meant.

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Just in case you haven’t heard it today: you are beautiful. You are so loved and so beautiful. Just know you are not alone in your struggles. Know that you are so desired and loved.

“Beautiful”

Days will come when you don’t have the strength
When all you hear is you’re not worth anything
Wondering if you ever could be loved
And if they truly saw your heart they’d see too muchYou’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
You’re beautiful

And praying that you have the heart to fight
Cause you are more than what is hurting you tonight
For all the lies you’ve held inside so long
And they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
You’re beautiful

Before you ever took a breath
Long before the world began
Of all the wonders He possessed
There was one more precious
Of all the earth and skies above
You’re the one He madly loves
Enough to die

You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
In His eyes

You’re beautiful
You were meant for so much more than all of this
You’re beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You’re meant for so much more than all of this
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His

Much love. Much grace.
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How I Changed My Wardrobe

I posted  a few weeks ago that I have transitioned from bright colors and patterns to a minimalistic wardrobe of black, grays, and other neutrals. Like I said in the previous post, this transition was super easy, and even enjoyable, for me. I realize that for some people this may be stressful or difficult, so I decided to try to share my process and experience with you!

The very first thing I want to mention is that I did not go out an buy new clothes. You don’t have to BUY a new wardrobe to focus the colors you are wearing. People tend to have certain colors they buy more of, and that is the color to go with. No sweat! You don’t have to buy anything! 🙂

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The Color Choice

I chose black as my main neutral because that is a color I have loved for a while, but also because I had more black clothes than the other colors. With black being my main color, I decided to just keep all the other neutrals as well making my baseline for my new closet. I kept kaki pants, jeans, and a few accessories that were not neutral but could accent it easily. (Also, I kept all my workout outfits. I love getting these in color because I do yoga pretty often and have started going to the gym and needed all the workout clothes I had! Plus, it allows for some color-wearing time haha!)

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The Style Choice

Once my main color and base line were decided, I needed to focus on  what “look” I was going for. I knew I needed clothes for two categories: professional and everyday. For choosing my professional outfits this was pretty easy because I had already bought my clothes in neutrals so I just kept all of them. (I don’t have a crazy amount of professional clothes…oops!) My personal style is much more difficult. To be honest, my preferences of clothes varies day-by-day so I kept the pieces that I love no matter what. I kept some tan lace shirts, my leather jacket, and some band tee-shirts that sadly aren’t black, but I will definitely wear again. (and already have!) Obviously I had to keep a few colorful items out of necessity. BUT they are pieces that go with my neutral baseline and I am not allowing myself to buy anymore of these colorful accents until the others are worn too much to wear or need to be fixed.

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The Eliminating

After I did all that organization,  I decided to donate. We have a few local places that accept donations (like Goodwill ) which I used, but recently (when I did a second run-through of my closet) I decided to give to a great organization called Schoola . Schoola is AMAZING. Being an education major I am all about supporting local schools and giving to those kiddos. When you donate or purchase through Schoola, you get quality, gently-used clothes that when purchased donates a percentage of money to the school of YOUR CHOICE. That’s right folks, you choose what school gets your money! How cool is that?! They are even supporting the Malala Fund when you buy specific clothes as well!

 

 

I am sure none of these “tips” are all that surprising, and they really shouldn’t be. Changing out your entire closet can be intimidating and overwhelming, but it really doesn’t have to be.

Have you changed out your wardrobe? Are there things I could be doing to further help the process? Let me know!

Much love. Much grace.

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What is the War You Want to Fight?

The recent events, in our country and around the globe, have caused me to want to know more about people’s lives.

It is always easy to make rash judgements about a person based on his or her religion, clothes, culture, or needs without actually seeing that person for who he or she actually is. While no one can truly know a person, we can come pretty close by reading about how that person feels, thinks, and makes decisions. Reading autobiographies can give us a glimpse into that person’s world and emotions.

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With the events of terror, death, and refugees needing homes; I find it has become a needed practice in my life to put faces and personal lives with the events and struggles. I refuse to take third person’s word about how another group of people is feeling without first seeking out the view of people from that people group.

If you seek to understand others in this way, have a desire for girls to be educated, or are curious about the Middle East as a region, I Am Malala is a great place to start.

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Nobel Peace Prize winner, Malala, tells her story of strength and determination to not only be educated as a girl in Swat, but also speaking out against those taking away education from girls. She tells of her life as a Muslim and how radicalism changed her beloved homeland and her life.

Reading this perspective of the change in the Middle East and the dangers of her choices really spoke to me. I struggle often with allowing myself to be carried away with apathy rather than compassion. Her story not only reminded me of the plights of others but also that I need to take these stories and issues to heart. There is so much danger, hate, and fear throughout her story and it is so heartbreaking to know people are forced to live in this everyday. We, as American’s, complain about our individual freedoms being compromised, when in reality we have so much freedom and so many rights.

“I know the importance of education because my pens and books were taken from me by force, but the girls of Swat are not afraid of anyone.”

Malala’s story is not just important because of her plights, but because she chose to fight this war. Her family, peers, and community showed her that there are certain things that are worth the fight.

Reading this book is not just an eye opening experience about what goes on in other culture’s eyes, but also calls readers to answer many questions. The most urgent question being, What is something worth fighting for? What is something that no matter what people say or do, you refuse to back down?

“I would do everything in my power to help educate girls… This was the war I was going to fight.”

These are questions that may seem easy to answer at first, but after reading this book the answers now seem petty.  Looking at the media today with elections and American beliefs in question, what are the things that you feel are worth not just a Tweet or a Facebook rant, but your potential death and wrath of your own country?

How do you answer these questions?

I am still working out many of these for myself as I process this book. Honestly, this will take me time to work through, although I hope to write about this in the future. The one thing I know as of now is that my faith in God is what is unwavering, no matter the circumstances.

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The way Malala writes is very smooth and clear, making her writing very easy to understand. She also does a great job of explaining how her country changed over time into the society it is today. Malala talks about her family, how she was raised a bit differently, and loved her life in her beautiful home of Swat.

I Am Malala is such a wonderful story. It is so full of information, sadness, but also a great hope for the future; as well as important questions for people to answer.

What is the war you are going to fight?

Much love. Much grace.

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Are you interested in helping Malala?

The Malala Fund helps make education a reality for girls in the Middle East. Malala is fighting for education rights of women and supporting her fund is the easiest way to join the fight.

Schoola is supporting the Malala Foundation with certain pieces that are sold from their website.

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