How Interviewing for Jobs Helped Me Gain Confidence

It’s hard out there, guys. I mean I’ve read articles and studies and a bunch of other stuff about how hard it is to get a job out there in the “real world”, especially for Millennials just graduating from college. (I mean, a graduate needs a four-year degree and five years of experience for an entry level job now… Literally impossible.) It’s pretty brutal. It’s less brutal if you know what you want to do with your life and you have the ability to relocate, but still very tough to beat out people for a job and not just huddle in a corner and cry. #realLife

It’s been nine months since I graduated with my BS degree and for about four months I was actively looking for a job.ย I now have a job that I am really enjoying, but the job search took a bit of a toll on my self-esteem and confidence there for a bit. However, this experience has been enlightening and encouraging in many different ways.

Now, in November of last year I talked about some of the fears I hadย and that I was still working on overcoming them. This experience has helped speed along that process in a major way, really getting down to the grit of specific fears I have.

Fear of Judgement

I hate knowing that people are constantly making first impressions of others and the idea of taking tests to determine my knowledge or skill at something makes my stomach hurt. I hate being judged. I hate being put on a number scale to determine my worth, because to me I don’t believe it is an accurate depiction of who I am.

Imperfection

I want to be good at everything; and by that I mean that I want to do everything perfectly. If I am doing something I want every detail to be aligned and displayed in a creative and fun way, and if it isn’t I tend to beat myself up about it.

Not Being Enough

It was hard going into job interviews and not getting a job. ย I had flaws that the future employer could not overcome, so they choose someone else. Mostly those flaws were experience related, but it’s very hard not to take each rejection personally.

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After each rejection, I noticed that my fears began to shrink. After each rejection I would grieve for a moment but then I would try to prepare for the next interview. Then, I started to list out good qualities about my professional self and memorizing them for interviews. I even carried them around on a piece of paper at one point so I could add more when I thought of them. I also started asking others what good qualities they saw in me so that I could add them to the list to tell future employers. This strategy helped me not just get a job, but be confident in my new stage of adulting. The career stage.

So, if you are out there searching and trying and maybe crying a little during a job search, just know you have many qualities to offer. So many, that I bet you could make a long list of them. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Much love. Much grace.

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Give A Little: Self-Help

I know there are a lot of people out there struggling with a variety of issues. ย School is starting back up again, and for many students school isn’t a happy place. Bullying is real and a major problem in our schools. If you are being bullied or just want someone to talk to, here are some truly wonderful organizations that want nothing more than to help you out and some ways to better help yourself. This week is National Suicide Prevention and Awareness Day, and I just want you to know that your time isn’t up yet. You have so many gifts, words, and memories to make and share with others. You are wanted and desired and there is hope, my loves.


Personality Tests

I know I have shared this before but be sure to find out what your personality type is. This will help you realize what your stress triggers are and how to prevent or work through them more easily. Be sure to take the test about once a year, because believe it or not, personalities can change based on life situations. I love the 16 Personalities Test because it is free and not as time consuming as the real Myers-Briggs test (which took me around 2 hours to complete! Crazy!) . This test is much shorter but still offers up a good starting point for making better sense of the self.

To Write Love On Her Arms

I love TWLOHA. They are such a wonderful organization and have such a wonderful desire to give immediate and long-lasting help to those who feel alone and like life is too hard to keep living. If you are struggling and don’t know where to turn, TWLOHA has a 24 Hotline for immediate calls. Or if you would like to help spread their vision, there are many donation and fundraising opportunities available. Also be sure to follow them on Twitterย because they have a great campaign for Suicide Awareness Day using the #IKeptLiving and it is truly inspirational.

Crisis Text Line

Crisis Text Line is genius. Instead of a phone call, this hotline uses texting. This way there is more anonymity in the conversation. The texting hotline connects the texter to a trained counselor who is trained to help with relationship, friendship, and family issues. People can text if he or she is feeling overwhelmed by schoolwork or career related issues and isn’t sure where to turn.

ย Suicide Prevention Lifeline

The Suicide Prevention Lifelineย is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. If you ever need someone to talk to please call this number. There are trained professionals on the other end who will listen to your concerns and give wise counsel.


Be sure to take a moment out of today to just take a breath and feel thankful for what you have in life today. It may be one thing or five things, but know that there is always something worth living for. There is always someone who is on your team rooting for you to do well in life, even if you don’tย think it’s true. You are so loved and you have so much more of your life to live!

You are so loved.

Much love. Much grace.

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Wear the Bikini

I love swimming!

When I was a teenager I was on a swim team and have honestly just always felt at home in the water (salt or chlorine… doesn’t matter!)

I always wore a one-piece or a tankiniย for most of my life up until pretty recently when I decided I really wanted a bikini. Cute one-piece suits are hard to find, and I always loved how bikini’s have mix-and-match options.

So this February, I decided that if I could lose a certain amount of weight, I would wear a bikini in public. So I set a goal, created a time-table and eating plan, and got to work. I have lost some of the weight I wanted, but not nearly as much as I planned in my over-zealousย schedule. But you know what? I still wanted to wear my bikini… at the pool… in public.

Such a conundrum.

I had bought the cutest two-piece as a motivation to work out and be healthy, so I already had a cute suit. And Mr. Yell and I were going WAY out of town on an anniversary trip, so no one I knew would even see me wear it. All I had to do was wear it.

And wear it I did.

You guys, at first I was totally self-conscious and worried about my “problem areas” but after about 30 minutes, it felt so free. I forgot all about my weight and “fluff” and just enjoyed swimming. It was so wonderful to not worry about what other people were thinking and just enjoy my time swimming.

 

For the first time in quite a while, I was able to feel comfortable in my body and who I am in this point and time. This is who I am right now, and this is how I look. I can love it or hate it, but in the end it is the only body I have.

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This is the first post in the “Summer Series” and I wanted to show ya’ll how committed I am to this being MY summer. And YOUR summer. Don’t let fear hold you back from what you want to do. This summer is for you and for your confidence to shine. We are in this together! So wear the bikini, or not. It’s YOUR choice. Wear what you want to the beach… and own it.

Much love. Much grace.

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Even If…

Even if I have problems, You are still good.

Even if I am weary, You are good and you are strong.

Even if I feel like you have forgotten me, You know my thoughts and fears.

Even if (when) I have bad days, You forgive me and remind me there are good days too.

Even if I struggle to have peace, You love me and guide me to a place of tranquility.

Even if I feel useless, You have a purpose for your glory to be shown through my story.

Even if I feel unworthy, You remind me that my worth comes from You, and You alone.

Even if my expectations are not met, You are good.

Even if my life is not what I planned, You are good.

Even if I am scared or anxious, You are good.

Even if everything changes, You stay the same.

Even if anything, You are so so good.

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Much love. Much grace.

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This Is YOUR Summer

I have been particularly struggling with this idea for some timeย now, not because I don’t think it needs talking about, but because I wasn’t sure I was qualified to write about it. Body confidence, and confidence in general, is something I have struggled with for a while. For many women, this struggle is a life-long battle in loving herself.

This summer I am going to write about the most difficult topic; self-worth.

Let me preface this by saying I am not a professional by any means. I don’t know five easy steps to loving yourself, I don’t know how to help you lose/gain weight, nor do I have a killer workout to help you with your booty gains. I am just a 23 year old woman who knows the struggles of finding, keeping, and desiring self-love. All I know is what I wish someone would have told me, or what I wish I would have listened to about loving myself.

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Those are the things I am going to work on in myself and try to share during this season. This won’t be every post, but it is a theme that I am wanting to challenge myself during these warmer months.

Much grace. Much love.

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If you have a story or comment or anything you would like to share on this topic, please let me know by contacting me. I would love to hear/share your story in growing or searching for coming to like/love your physical self.