How Interviewing for Jobs Helped Me Gain Confidence

It’s hard out there, guys. I mean I’ve read articles and studies and a bunch of other stuff about how hard it is to get a job out there in the “real world”, especially for Millennials just graduating from college. (I mean, a graduate needs a four-year degree and five years of experience for an entry level job now… Literally impossible.) It’s pretty brutal. It’s less brutal if you know what you want to do with your life and you have the ability to relocate, but still very tough to beat out people for a job and not just huddle in a corner and cry. #realLife

It’s been nine months since I graduated with my BS degree and for about four months I was actively looking for a job. I now have a job that I am really enjoying, but the job search took a bit of a toll on my self-esteem and confidence there for a bit. However, this experience has been enlightening and encouraging in many different ways.

Now, in November of last year I talked about some of the fears I had and that I was still working on overcoming them. This experience has helped speed along that process in a major way, really getting down to the grit of specific fears I have.

Fear of Judgement

I hate knowing that people are constantly making first impressions of others and the idea of taking tests to determine my knowledge or skill at something makes my stomach hurt. I hate being judged. I hate being put on a number scale to determine my worth, because to me I don’t believe it is an accurate depiction of who I am.

Imperfection

I want to be good at everything; and by that I mean that I want to do everything perfectly. If I am doing something I want every detail to be aligned and displayed in a creative and fun way, and if it isn’t I tend to beat myself up about it.

Not Being Enough

It was hard going into job interviews and not getting a job.  I had flaws that the future employer could not overcome, so they choose someone else. Mostly those flaws were experience related, but it’s very hard not to take each rejection personally.

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After each rejection, I noticed that my fears began to shrink. After each rejection I would grieve for a moment but then I would try to prepare for the next interview. Then, I started to list out good qualities about my professional self and memorizing them for interviews. I even carried them around on a piece of paper at one point so I could add more when I thought of them. I also started asking others what good qualities they saw in me so that I could add them to the list to tell future employers. This strategy helped me not just get a job, but be confident in my new stage of adulting. The career stage.

So, if you are out there searching and trying and maybe crying a little during a job search, just know you have many qualities to offer. So many, that I bet you could make a long list of them. 😉

Much love. Much grace.

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Exciting New Chapters

Hello everyone! It sure has been a while since I have updated. I have been making some new life adjustments these past few months and finally have time to take a breath!

Since May, several new things have happened and today I am so excited to share them with you!

We moved

Yes we moved! But only across town to a new apartment. If you follow me on Instagram you know how much I am loving our new place. Our old apartment was the perfect size for us, but it was very old. There wasn’t any central heating or air conditioning, only window units that barely worked and were tough on our electric bill. Since we live in Louisiana, central A/C is a must have… or at least having semi-working window units. 😉  So we took the opportunity to look for new apartments when our lease ran out and found a great apartment with great A/C and lots of big windows. I am loving this new place since it feels less dark with the sunlight able to come into our home, and this new apartment also allows pets! So that meant we had to get one….

 We rescued a cat

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Our newest addition: Mruczec! (pronounced Mroo-check)

After being in our apartment for about a month and a half, Mr. Yell and I just couldn’t take it anymore. We just had to get a cat. So I looked online and found a great website that helps people find the pet they want using shelters. We found our cute kitty online and then drove 3 hours to pick him up from a shelter. Originally , we wanted to wait a while before getting a pet, but when I found our cat online we couldn’t wait any longer. I mean, how could you not take this sweet kitty home?! He’s just perfect!

I got a job

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My first day teaching at ELS

That’s right, friends! I am officially a working woman! I am now a part-time teacher at an ELS Center teaching English as a language to those who don’t use it as a first language. After graduating I spent some time recovering from school and then set out to look for jobs. After a few months I finally found a job I was really excited about as well as co-workers and a boss that are just too amazing for words. I have really been challenged in this different area of teaching and the fast pace, but I am starting to get the hang of it and am excited for this incredible opportunity!

I have missed all of you and have really missed blogging. I am super excited to get back to business by uploading posts more consistently and I have quite a few new posts ready to be shared with you!

Much love.  Much grace.

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