Girls Like Me

I’m not like those other girls.ย 

I don’t like make-up or heels.

I don’t eat a salad to lose weight.

I eat cheeseburgers. I eat french fries. I like to eat sweets. Because….

I’m not like those other girls.

Those girls who cheer.

Those girls who have to be the most popular or perfect.

Those girls who are catty and mean.

The one’s who ย contour or waist train. I’m not like that…

I’m not like those other girls.

Who don’t like sports.

Who don’t like comics.

Who don’t like video games. I can’t hide who I am, you guys…

I’m not like other girls.

I only make friends with guys because there is less drama.

I HATE drama.

I HATE when other girls judge me.

I would HATE to be like those other girls.

But what if… those other girls are actually just like me.ย 

Those other girls like the things I do, but don’t say so.

Those other girls feel judged by the make-up they wear or the games they play.

They only have friends who are boys because they don’t feel like they can be friends with girls…

Because they aren’t like other girls.

Other girls… like me.

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We aren’t that different after all. We are all trying to be special and unique, when all we really want is to be with each other. The more special we try to be, the more lonely we become. There are other girls like you, and like me. Let’s join forces and make a community, instead of convincing ourselves that other people aren’t like us.

Much love. Much grace.

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So, This Feminist Thing…

I’ve noticed that there has been a bit of tension online. I mean, obviously with campaigning for the Presidency, the election itself, and then the inauguration, there was bound to be tension.

However, the tension really seemed to erupt on my social media outlets the day of the Woman’s March. Many people were supportive, yet there were many who were bashing the women marching. I read posts people wrote about how marching was a waste of time because women have everything we could ever need or want here in the United States. I even saw a very popular post stating that feminism itself was a waste of time because women already have everything they need.

Feminism is a term that is considered negative and full of distain for men. Many men and women view Feminism as a “down with men” movement and a hatred towards the opposite gender. Feminism is mostly seen through the 1970s lens of bra-burning and man-hating.

This type of Feminism is NOT today’s Feminism.

Currently, the United States is going through what is called the “third wave” of Feminism. Wave #1 was when women were marching for the right to vote. Wave #2 was when women marched in the 1970s with a focus on careers. Wave #3 is the time we are in now.

Women are fighting for equality.

Not just equality of genders, but equality across racial lines. So that men and women of any skin color can make equal pay. So that men and women of all colors can feel safe in work environments. So that equal pay and safety are no longer privileges, but a societal right.

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Yes; I know many women in other parts of the world don’t have the rights we do here in the US. However, the USA is a developed country. We are supposed to be the “Leader of the Free World”, and yet women are not paid the same as their male counterparts.

How is this equality?

I’ll give you a hint: It’s not.

So sure, you don’t have to be a feminist; but to be a feminist is to want equality. Feminism is not a bad word, it is a hopeful one.

If you want equal pay, you are a Feminist.

If you want your daughter to have the same academic opportunities as your son, you are a Feminist.

If you want your daughter to not have to worry about sexual harassment at work, school, or on the street, you are a Feminist.

I believe all this things and want to see these things happen in my country. You know what? That makes me a Feminist… and that is not a gross thing to be.

So, let us come together in hope of a changing world; for our sons, daughters, and ourselves. Let us work towards a brighter future by embracing what Feminism actually is… not what we are scared it might be.

To those who actively marched: thank you. For change is not brought about by one person in an important chair, but by the groups of loud voices calling for change.

Much love. Much grace.

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Exciting New Chapters

Hello everyone! It sure has been a while since I have updated. I have been making some new life adjustments these past few months and finally have time to take a breath!

Since May, several new things have happened and today I am so excited to share them with you!

We moved

Yes we moved! But only across town to a new apartment. If you follow me on Instagram you know how much I am loving our new place. Our old apartment was the perfect size for us, but it was very old. There wasn’t any central heating or air conditioning, only window units that barely worked and were tough on our electric bill. Since we live in Louisiana, central A/C is a must have… or at least having semi-working window units. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ย So we took the opportunity to look for new apartments when our lease ran out and found a great apartment with great A/C and lots of big windows. I am loving this new place since it feels less dark with the sunlight able to come into our home, and this new apartment also allows pets! So that meant we had to get one….

ย We rescued a cat

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Our newest addition: Mruczec! (pronounced Mroo-check)

After being in our apartment for about a month and a half, Mr. Yell and I just couldn’t take it anymore. We just had to get a cat. So I looked online and found a great website that helps people find the pet they want using shelters. We found our cute kitty online and then drove 3 hours to pick him up from a shelter. Originally , we wanted to wait a while before getting a pet, but when I found our cat onlineย we couldn’t wait any longer. I mean, how could you not take this sweet kitty home?! He’s just perfect!

I got a job

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My first day teaching at ELS

That’s right, friends! I am officially a working woman! I am now a part-time teacher at an ELS Center teaching English as a language to those who don’t use it as a first language. After graduating I spent some time recovering from school and then set out to look for jobs. After a few months I finally found a job I was really excited about as well as co-workers and a boss that are just too amazing for words. I have really been challenged in this different area of teaching and the fast pace, but I am starting to get the hang of it and am excited forย this incredible opportunity!

I have missed all of you and have really missed blogging. I am super excited to get back to business by uploading posts more consistently and I have quite a few new posts ready to be shared with you!

Much love. ย Much grace.

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Needing Contentment

“I just want to see you content”

Seven words. Words that cut me to the core, and yet are loving at the same time. A phrase that says, “hey, I not only care about you, but I want to see you happy where you are and with what you have.”

But that word… Content… it is just so foreign.

I need more. More time. More money. More friends. More sucess. More adventures.

“Content” and “more” don’t go together. A person can’t live with both.

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I have been struggling with wanting to go to a new place to live for a while now. With marrying Mr. Yell and seeing most of our friends leave, it has been very hard to stay in our small town. I have been angry, jealous, and hurt; with myself for graduating late, and with God for not taking us to another place. He has been silent for almost a year now; and that has been the hardest thing to experience.

Then just this week my husband said something that woke me up. It made me rethink this past year’s emotions, complications, and stress.

“I just want to see you content.”

That’s it. That was the moment I realized that maybe, God wasn’t silent, at least not at first. Instead of listening to what He wanted me to do, I have been trying to push myself to do things that I feel I need to do. Things that will make me likable, smarter, or bring my life more meaning. I have been trying to make my life “better”, when instead I justย  needed to learn how to be content.

Contentment is hard, guys. So hard. It is very hard to live in a world that is built on comparing ourselves to others and yet seek contentment. It is hard to see people in your same place in life who seem like they are doing it all, or that they are more likeable or needed or whatever. But can I just say that finding a way to be content is just so much better?

Even if you aren’t a believer in Christ, I challenge you just to take this week and find ways not to want more.ย  I want you to think about the things and people you have, and I want you to think everyday that you have enough. That you are fine where you are, and that the desire for more is not needed. For me, this is made infinitely easier when I remember that my relationship with God is all I need. I can lose everything and still know that He is good. He is enough.

This year has been rough, that is for sure. But this week has been the best week I have had in such a long time just on the basis of seeking contentment. I am learning, like I am sure much of you are, that I am pretty enough, strong enough, smart enough, loved enough, and happy enough.

I am doing my best to help those in need and make the part of the world I am in a brighter place to be. And that thought can only come from being content.

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Friends, are you content? If it means anything… I not only think you can be, but I want to see that happen for you.

Much love. Much grace.

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A New Perspective : Kathy

Kathy is a friend and mentor of mine, and has been for years. She always has just the right words to say and encouragement just when I, or others, need it most. She did Mr. Yell’s and my premarital counseling this past year and was our college minister for several years. I am so excited to have her on the blog this week!

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Worship- verb, proskuneo โ€“ pros=โ€towardsโ€ and kuneo=โ€to kissโ€.

I will never forget learning this meaning years ago. ย A room full of college students were at my house for discipleship and we began talking about what โ€œworshipโ€ actually means and what God desires of us in our worship of Him. ย We looked it up in our Vines Expository Dictionary and found this definition. ย โ€œTo lean towards, as if to kissโ€. ย ย I was overtaken with the visual of that intimate act and could hardly speak for a moment. ย Worship in my personal, private time was not a new concept, but that intimate act used to define it made it become a sharp and clear picture. ย It made me understand why personal, private worship of the Lord Jesus Christ was crucial in feeling the power of the Holy Spirit when the whole church worships together.

Scripture teaches us the power of Godโ€™s people gathering in authentic worship together in 1stย Corinthians 14:24-25. ย The word of God was being taught and they were praising God together in such a way that listeners who did not know God came to understand how much they needed him and fell down on their knees and worshipped God, declaring that God really was there among them!

Only God is worthy of being worshipped this way. ย In Matthew 4:10 Jesus rebukes Satan and tells him that we should โ€œworship the Lord our God, and him only should we serve.โ€ ย The priority of faithfulness in worship is clear. ย He wants all of our worship.

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Truly, my sweetest experiences in worship have been when I am alone at home or riding in my car. ย ย Songs with strong biblically sound lyrics have made me want to stand up right there in my car and worship Jesus โ€“ which may be tricky since I am the one driving. ย Reading Godโ€™s word and coming to a new understanding of Godโ€™s character or a new principle to apply to my life has often brought me to my knees in worship or caused me to weep at His overwhelming acts of grace and kindness toward me.

My encouragement to you is that you find a place where you can spend time โ€œleaning in to God, as if to kiss Himโ€.ย  ย ย Even if you are one who doesnโ€™t really know God or much about Him, seek Him โ€“ lean into Him and He will show you who He is.

Imagine what our weekly worship gatherings with others would be like if we all came to the room having already spent private time in worship of our Savior. ย Letโ€™s pray together that each of us who claim to follow Christ will be faithful to worship Him and only Him. ย He is so worthy of our worship and praise. ย After all, the bible teaches us that if we donโ€™t, the ROCKS will cry out in worship. ย And like the song says โ€“ โ€œainโ€™t no rock gonna cry out in MY place!โ€

May your worship this week bring you a new understanding of how rich and fulfilling private worship can be. ย For me, it changed my day, renewed my spirit and transformed my life.

Kathy

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Kathy is founder of โ€œSpeak It Ministriesโ€ and author of โ€œ5 Thingsโ€ โ€“ a book about how a man should love a woman by looking at the life of Boaz. ย She loves to share Godโ€™s word with anyone who will listen. ย You can find out more about her ministry, as well as buy her book, at her ย website www.speakitministries.comย or follow her on Twitter: @cckathy and on Instagram: kathybnelson

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